This is what you look like when you yell at me
I am not an idiot. Don’t talk down to me or yell at me like I am.
Even idiots deserve respect.
Old saying: Cruelty is a sign of weakness; only the strong can be gentle.
Get off my ass.
It’s really hard to remember that when someone screams at you with words meant to belittle when you’ve made a mistake, or when they believe their own perceptions to be the only ones that hold value.
I am not your bad dog nor am I your child. For that I am quite thankful.
I am a strong, intelligent and mature woman who is not perfect.
I will make more mistakes in my lifetime.
So will you.
How would you feel if every time you had a lapse in judgment or did something differently than someone else, you were verbally abused? Perhaps you were or still are. Maybe that’s how you justify doing it to others. How does it feel?
Being an adult of any age certainly is not a guarantee of emotional maturity.
If you are treated this way by someone, please know that it is not about you. You are not an idiot and should never be made to feel like one by any other human being. (Chances are, we do it to ourselves enough.)
Try to see it as the other person’s weakness and lack of coping skills, if you can. They may not even be aware of what they are doing in the heat of the moment. Compassion for them can help you feel less like you are being bullied by their outbursts and more in control of your own emotions. See it from outside yourself that they are not at all in control when they do this to you and are making a desperate attempt to regain it at your expense.
You have the right to tell your adult bullies that they are not permitted to talk to you this way.
Be calm, be strong. Don’t let them see that they have rattled you. Don’t bully back or get in a shouting match.
You have NO right to yell at me. Get your self-control in check or I am leaving until you are calm again.
One last thought… Should I ever do this to you, please have the courage to tell me. I would never intentionally hurt you because I love you and only want the best for you. I understand we continually learn from our mistakes and I value our differences in opinion. Even though you are so young, child of mine, you teach me so much. I strive to respect you and gently guide you so you will grow into a mature adult who treats others kindly without allowing them to walk all over you.
